This week I was reminded of how scary getting started can be. I wanted to sign up for a course that I had been looking at for a while but was feeling overwhelmed by time constraints, financial pressures, feelings of being a fraud, and all around like I should be focusing my time, money, and energy on other areas in my life. But, I also kept thinking that this was something that was important to my soul. The course would offer me designated time for myself every week for 12 weeks. It would give me new skills and knowledge in an area that I am interested in. And it would nourish my heart, even if it was draining other more practical areas in my life.
This is the same feeling I often have when starting a new writing project. I know that it is good for my soul, but I can make a long list of reasons why it isn't good for the rest of my life. I don't have the time, work is too busy right now, I can't afford to dedicate time to writing on a regular basis, my family needs me 24/7, I can't afford the support that I will need to help me write this. And these are the just the practical reasons! The list of emotional reasons is often much longer. I'm not a good writer, so what's the point. This story isn't that interesting, so what's the point. No one will ever want to read this, so what's the point. I am a talentless, worthless person, so what's the point. Things can get dark fast.
The hesitation to get started, or more appropriately, the huge wall that blocks the way to getting started, always seems to go back to fear. Fear that I am not good enough, that the work will not be good enough, that I can't balance writing and life, that I will have to give up too much of my daily life. Fear, fear, fear.
So, how do you move past fear in order to get started?
3. Dive first, learn how to swim later. Sometimes the reasons not to do something are so big that you just have to dive in without thinking of the consequences. Chances are, once you commit, you will be help to figure out all the practicalities and emotional fears as you go along. Have you committed to writing for 30 minutes every morning? You'll figure out how to wake up 30 minutes earlier so you can fit it in. Do you need to take a writing course to support your process? You'll figure out how to pick up a few extra hours at work, or cut back on your cable package for a few months to cover the cost. Sometimes, we just have to trust that it will all work out in the end because we are doing something really important for ourselves.
These are a few ways that I've learned to move past my own fears when starting something new. Maybe they will resonate with you, or maybe they will remind you of another tactic that will fit in your life better. I just hope that you get started on whatever it is that your soul is asking of you.
Hi, I'm Lia! I'm an author and the creator of Cozy Writer's Room. I believe in the power of storytelling and love helping others tell their stories using simple productivity tools like printables!